– “No.”
– “Why not?”
– “I’m not interested.”
– “Do you know who I am?”
– “Yes. Result of a biological accident.”
– “What?”
– “We all are.”
– “Excuse me?”
– “A man forgot to use protection or a woman forgot to take a pill. One or the other. Nothing special about it.”
– “Do you have any idea what I’ve achieved?”
– “Sure. I read your profile.”
– “And you still say no?”
– “Uh-huh.”
– “I achieved my MD and PhD at the same time.”
– “I bathe and sing at the same time.”
– “What?”
– “I thought we were sharing trivia about ourselves; so I thought I should pitch in.”
– “Are you insulting me?”
– “I’m thinking I don’t see the connection between your research skills and relationship potential, that’s all.”
– “I don’t take no for an answer.”
– “Ah! There we see the sperm with the ambitious streak that won the contest against 80 million others!”
– “You’re insulting me again.”
– “No, you’re managing that yourself.”
– “What?”
– “My friend, I’m looking for a partner; not a buyer. Sure, you have a ton of achievements on your name. Impressive. I’m sure they’re your best allies in most walks of life. But please check if they’ve programmed you to consider everything as a product or a service you’re entitled to. Because, as of now, that’s how you’re seeing me. Yet another trophy to covet, obsess over, win and place in your showcase. I have certain relationship goals; and getting objectified like this isn’t one of them.”
– “I… Uh…”
– “You aren’t just doing it to me; you’re doing it to yourself too. You see yourself as a race-horse, not a human. That’s not hot. That’s tragic. Not everything in life needs to be some silly competition. It’s how you carry yourself, that makes you relationship material. Your ideas. Your thoughts. Your emotional maturity. Your social quotient. Your patience. I see nothing appealing.”
– “You… Uh…”
– “And that’s just me. I’m not saying you don’t have it. Maybe someone else will see something that fits theirs wants. It’s just that, I don’t. Simple thing here would be to wish each other all the best and move on. Never say OK when life-goals say ‘no’. But elsewhere, it’s OK to hear ‘no’. It’s a strength to be OK with rejections. They’re a part of life. Have that strength as yet another addition in your achievements.”
© Counselor Apoorv Vikas
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