– “Is it wrong to be sensitive?”
– “Nothing is right or wrong.”
– “But?”
– “Our perceptions make it so.”
– “But isn’t emotionality universal?”
– “Is water a universal idea?”
– “Yes.”
– “It could be a river.”
– “Yes.”
– “Or there could be a dam on that river.”
– “Oh.”
– “And that changes everything.”
– “How?”
– “Keep it fluid, and you have a flow.”
– “And in case of the dam?”
– “No flow. But water rises up.”
– “Which creates a pressure-head…”
– “And creates stress.”
– “How do we cancel flow of feelings?”
– “Feelings are emotionalized thoughts.”
– “Meaning?”
– “Emotion is water; thought is the channel.”
– “And the channel dictates the flow?”
– “If it’s allowed. If it’s shaped as a channel.”
– “What else can it be?”
– “Could be a trough.”
– “Oh.”
– “Experiences are rains. They add to the underground flows in the unconscious ground of the trough. Water surges up into the trough; rising fast. We don’t open the moat. We keep heightening the walls of the trough, instead. Soon, it’s not a trough anymore. It’s a tall column containing a ton of water. Unstable; ready to burst and collapse. That’s the meltdown we occasionally face.”
– “How to keep things channeled?”
– “By diving down into that underground cave of the unconscious. By thinking out thoughts. By processing them. By identifying the rationale in them and checking if it’s really reasonable.”
– “I see.”
– “Most of our thoughts aren’t new. They’re stalagmites of beliefs. Patterned, scripted ideas. Which find companionship. With stalactites of frozen emotion, called sentimentality. When stalactites meet stalagmites, they develop rigid columns of resentment. We can keep that cave clear by checking how that sentimentality affects our self-view and world-view. If it’s dysfunctional, we’ll know if we choose to see how our personal, professional, social failures are linked to it. Remedy is a simple choice to reject those beliefs. And build new identity. By deciding who we really want to be. And staying true to it by taking constructive actions. Being real and letting life respond to that truth.”
© Counselor Apoorv Vikas
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