No, it’s not negative.
It’s just what it is.
We label it negative,
for it differs to our beliefs and demands of how things should be.
Well, we’ll reach to how things should be,
only when we accept how things are.
That acceptance turns obstacles into steps.
It hurts; but not on its own.
It hurts, for we carry it forward.
Nothing has significance of its own.
It’s us who allot significance to things.
Most of our pain comes from our own advocacy of how that pain is valid.
Well, if being in pain is the goal, then congrats! Our advocacy won!
But if mental peace is the goal, then how about choosing it over the pain?
Mental peace is chosen when we accept:
- There’s no script as per which life must be. Sure, what we want to happen can be a goal. But that’s exactly why, it’s OK if it’s not here. We can always reach it. Our denial to what happened keeps us locked to it. Our acceptance of it frees us to reach ouy of it and toward our goal.
- Things may be not-OK. Doesn’t mean we have to be not-OK with selves. What happened isn’t our failure. It’s just a reflection of who we were that time. Maybe we were carrying a disintegration with self, unconsciously. Maybe we were anxious/angry/unaware/unstable at a subtle level for some reason, before all of it. That’s when negativity attacks us. It’s law of attraction. So let’s not attract more negativity further by destroying ourself further with bad feelings. Let’s get back to awareness. Calm down. Let’s switch identities. No need to be who we were a moment ago. It’s a choice.
© Counselor Apoorva
Psychologist
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