You’re talking about the problem, when
you share it as your emotional need.
You’re whining about the problem, when
- it’s all you ever talk about;
- being the victim becomes your identity;
- you keep telling how invalid the situation is;
- you keep justifying how valid your complaint is;
- you keep advocating against all solutions to it.
You’re learning about the problem, when
- you get real;
- you accept it is there;
- you explore all its dimensions;
- you check what part of your
beliefs, speech, actions and transactions
brought it to you; - you accept you need to make changes in you;
could be additions of what you didn’t know;
could be rejection of unreal ideas you had;
could be virtues like mindfulness, alertness,
polite assertiveness, discipline, patience. - you learn what those changes are;
- you implement and transform.
We don’t get solutions.
We become solutions.
© Counselor Apoorva
Psychologist
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