• “People’s words hit me too hard.”
• “Or maybe they hit just a little; but
  you FEEL the hit too hard.”
• “Yes, that’s actually right.
  I don’t know why I’m so sensitive to trivial stuff.”
• “When the skin is wounded,
  even a little wind is too hard.”
• “Do I have any wounds?”
• “We all do; but do we need to carry them with us?
  Or maybe you’re wounding yourself
  with unconsciously maintained insecurities.
  Self-doubts. Low self-esteem. Poor self-image.”
• “Why would anyone maintain such stuff?”
• “Gives you an identity. Absent a better one,
  we preserve any identity – even a negative one.
  You survived with it so far; so maybe,
  your system thinks it’s necessary for survival.”
• “Uh – huh…”
• “Or maybe it serves as negative motivation.
  The discomfort serves as constant reminder:
  ‘I’m not where I need to be in life.’
  That’s fuel for you to crawl closer to your goals.
  Maybe that’s why you have an unconscious need
  to get too irritated with people’s words.
  Your system takes the disturbance as
  addition to the motivation.
  People notice subtle hints of insecurity in you;
  they see a chance at entertainment in it.”
• “What do I do about it?”
• “Know that in any case it’s a false strategy.
  Pay attention when you’re slipping into
  these old scripts. Grow up. Step out of them.
  Decide to live free of scripts now.
  And have a check on all of it:
  Check if those self-doubts are really valid.
  Check if that right self-image is really right.
  Check if your goals really match your strengths.
  Check if you’re respecting the right values.
  Check if crappy values are blinding you.
  Check if your take at life is realistic.”

© Counselor Apoorva
Psychologist

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